Excellent advice. I’ve never been normal but I’ve been a perfectionist my whole life. It helps when you’re a doctor, but it also creates a lot of stress. Not sure about that yoga yet, but it’s a thought. I’m not very bendable any more!
I've never been normal either, Carole! That's the beauty of it, there is no normal. Michael Singer, the author of The Untethered Soul, said that stress is what happens when we resist what is. It's an interesting concept, that I have found to be true.
You'll start yoga or you won't, there are many paths to the same end. It's been well worth it for me. I'm here if you decide that's something you'd like to try. 😊
This resonated with me so much Janine! I listed to your post at 8am on the way to a job. I have trouble connecting to myself, that was my main take away. I also have perfectionistic tendencies as well
It's the hardest part, for sure. We tend to judge ourselves pretty harshly, so it's hard to connect to ourselves when we believe we're so "less than." It's a lifelong journey, and it does get easier. 💜
Exactly and I’ve always been one who cares way too much what people think. You want to be the perfect parent, perfect partner, then, when the nest is empty and you’ve spent your entire life putting your kids through school nurturing them then they go on their own and bang, you realize wow I’ve never taken the chance to breathe. When that happens you come to some uncomfortable realities about your own happiness. I get what you wrote to the very core❤️
"Perfect" is this elusive concept that some of us strive for out of fear. But there is no perfect. In parenting, what is perfect for one child is completely wrong for another. I love Brene Brown's description of it, because I think it gets to the center of all of it. It's armor we wear for protection, but in the end, it just weighs us down and eventually crushes us.
Good morning Janine when you say there is no normal I couldn’t agree with you more. I think in a lot of ways, many of us strive for some form of normalcy but as I’ve aged I’ve found that there’s a comfort level that we reach instead. A comfort level in which we are able to feel normal and allows me anyway, to be able to accept myself for who I am and not worry what others may think.
Excellent advice. I’ve never been normal but I’ve been a perfectionist my whole life. It helps when you’re a doctor, but it also creates a lot of stress. Not sure about that yoga yet, but it’s a thought. I’m not very bendable any more!
I've never been normal either, Carole! That's the beauty of it, there is no normal. Michael Singer, the author of The Untethered Soul, said that stress is what happens when we resist what is. It's an interesting concept, that I have found to be true.
You'll start yoga or you won't, there are many paths to the same end. It's been well worth it for me. I'm here if you decide that's something you'd like to try. 😊
This resonated with me so much Janine! I listed to your post at 8am on the way to a job. I have trouble connecting to myself, that was my main take away. I also have perfectionistic tendencies as well
It's the hardest part, for sure. We tend to judge ourselves pretty harshly, so it's hard to connect to ourselves when we believe we're so "less than." It's a lifelong journey, and it does get easier. 💜
Exactly and I’ve always been one who cares way too much what people think. You want to be the perfect parent, perfect partner, then, when the nest is empty and you’ve spent your entire life putting your kids through school nurturing them then they go on their own and bang, you realize wow I’ve never taken the chance to breathe. When that happens you come to some uncomfortable realities about your own happiness. I get what you wrote to the very core❤️
"Perfect" is this elusive concept that some of us strive for out of fear. But there is no perfect. In parenting, what is perfect for one child is completely wrong for another. I love Brene Brown's description of it, because I think it gets to the center of all of it. It's armor we wear for protection, but in the end, it just weighs us down and eventually crushes us.
That’s a great quote Janine! Really puts it into perspective doesn’t it?
And…thank you Janine for putting yourself out there.
Good morning Janine when you say there is no normal I couldn’t agree with you more. I think in a lot of ways, many of us strive for some form of normalcy but as I’ve aged I’ve found that there’s a comfort level that we reach instead. A comfort level in which we are able to feel normal and allows me anyway, to be able to accept myself for who I am and not worry what others may think.
Exactly, Pete. You let go of caring about what others think and focus on what makes you happy. That's where you find more ease and less anxiety.